There are many things that can make you feel old. I have had a bunch of these feelings lately. I was playing catch with my son the other day and my shoulder has not stopped hurting. I will get a cut from trail running and it will take forever to heal. If I sleep weird it is always a bummer the next day. These are typical getting older things. But there was an incident the other day that really put me getting older into perspective.

One of my nieces, who is a sophomore in college, was coming to town to go to a concert. I was talking to my folks before she got there, and asked what show she was going to see. They told me they didn't know, but that the show was at a venue called The Duck Room. I'm familiar with this spot, but I have not seen a show there in quite some time. I went on their website and looked up the calendar and saw the band. They are called Bendigo Fletcher. So, first off, I do not know if this is a band or a solo act. That was my first inclination that I was older.

I then looked at the full calendar or upcoming shows. I was scrolling and scrolling and kept coming up empty. I had no idea who any of the artists were. And it is not like I don't listen to cool music. I love finding new music to listen to. I'm open to almost any suggestions. But I was drawing a total blank. I thought to myself that The Duck Room is more of an indie venue. It is smaller and they book more up and coming acts. So I checked The Pageant website. I have gone to The Pageant a bunch over the years. I have seen all kinds of acts there. I saw A Tribe Called Quest when Phife was still alive. I saw The Black Keys when they had to set up their own equipment. I saw a live taping of Comedy Bang! Bang!. I've seen acts like Leon Bridges. The Shins and The Mars Volta. Needless to say, The Pageant gets all kinds of bands and artists to play there, big and small. But when I was scrolling through their calendar, it was mostly blank again. In fact, the only acts I recognized were comedians and tribute bands. I also knew a few of the older bands, guys a bit older than me, but that was it. All these groups or solo acts, who look hip and cool, I had zero idea who they were. I had never heard of more than eighty percent of the people playing The Pageant. It was the same with the venue next door to The Pageant, Delmar Hall. I could not recognize anyone. My buddy told me he was taking his kids to a show there soon, I asked the band, he told me and I had no idea who he was talking about. He knew the band, knew the songs and he is my age, but I was oblivious. I went on to check on some other venues around town, and much to my chagrin I only knew the big acts playing arenas and bigger spots around STL. It truly bummed me out. I've been thinking about it since Saturday night and I am disappointed in myself for not knowing a bunch of traveling musicians.

This “problem” has extended from there to other parts of my life. My other niece, who is a senior in high school, makes fun of my taste in hip hop. I listen to "old people" hip hop according to her. When did Kendrick Lamar become "old people" hip hop? My nephew plays stuff on YouTube when he visits and I have no clue what is happening. My son will tell me all these hip hop artists he likes, and I am just confused. I will tell him about the artists I listen to. I will go on and on about Tribe or Biggie or Outkast and he says they are too old for him. To him this is like when my dad would listen to The Beatles and Bob Dylan around the house, two musical acts I now adore but didn't as a kid.

This was a tough one for me. I am still having trouble with aging. I used to be cool, but I guess I am not anymore, especially when it comes to what is considered popular music. At least I still have the artists I enjoy making new music. But maybe this is just how it goes the older you get and I just have to deal with it. It's a bummer, but that is the way it goes. 

Ty

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