Cloves and Fedoras: Jon Lajoie's song "Stay at Home Dad" is True to Life

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A couple of weeks back I wrote about a band called Wolfie's Just Fine. I really liked their new album and I put a full review on the site. As I mentioned in that blog, the lead singer is actor/musician/comedian Jon Lajoie. I'm a big Lajoie fan.

After listening to Wolfie's Just Fine new album on repeat for a couple of weeks, I decided I wanted to revisit Lajoie's comedy music. I own all of his music, but, my absolute favorite song is called "Stay At Home Dad". Now, most of you know that I am a stay at home dad, as I have written a piece about it and I have recorded a podcast about it. So, being that I'm a stay at home dad and a Lajoie fan, I wanted to really dig deep into the song and see how closely Lajoie's comedic version is to my real life. I'm going to break down the song, analyzing each lyric, don't worry, the song is short, and I will also break down the chorus, comparing it to my life.

Let's go.

The song opens with the chorus. The chorus is as follows, "I'm a stay at home dad/ I'm on paternity leave/ I'm a stay at home dad/ It's just the baby and me/ I'm a stay at home dad/ While my wife's at work/ I got a bottle in my hand and spit up on my shirt". So, yes, I too am a stay at home dad, obviously. That's an easy comparison. But, I am not on paternity leave. I was with our first kid, and it was great. It was so nice to be at home with my wife after we had our son. Now, with my daughter, I am the stay at home parent, so no paternity leave. It's just my straight up job. Which leads me to, "it's just the baby and me". Two days a week, my four year old is at school, so it is just the baby and me. I truly enjoy these days. This is when I really learn what my daughter likes and dislikes. This is also how we get on a schedule. The one on one time you get with kids is crucial. I got that with my son and now, I'm getting it with my daughter. Then, my wife does go to work, five days a week, 8 hours a day. She leaves the house at 7am and she doesn't get home until 4. So, another thing I relate to. And then there's the bottle in my hand and the inevitable spit up on my shirt or burp cloth. My daughter tends to wake up about an hour after my wife leaves and that's when I make my daughter's breakfast, which includes a 6 ounce bottle of formula. Sometimes, she eats it all, other times, she just wants the food and a little formula, but spit up is always the recurring theme. I have spit up on not only my shirt, but it's on my pants, socks and burp cloth. My baby loves to spit up. Lajoie nails this part. He is one hundred percent right about this. so, that's the chorus. It comes up a couple of times in the song later, but I just hashed it all out here, so I won't have to do it again. I will say though, for the most part, Lajoie is about 90 to 95 percent correct with all the stuff he says about being a stay at home dad. The only part that isn't that similar anymore is the paternity leave thing, but that's it.

Then, the first verse. It goes as follows, "baby wakes up around 5am/ kicking and screaming until his face turns red/ he usually tends to calm down once he's fed/ I give his bottle my wife gets out of bed". Okay, first off, I already said my baby sleeps until about 8 am my time. so, thankfully I don't have to deal with the 5am wake up call, but I think this makes me an anomaly. Most kids do get up very early, but my kids are pretty decent sleepers. Now, that's not to say that I haven't had early wake up calls, but it's not an everyday occurrence. The kicking and screaming only happens about 50 percent of the time. Some mornings I catch her before she starts to really freak out, but other days, it is the kicking and screaming and the red face. This definitely has happened to me on more than one occurrence. And yes, once I feed my daughter, and my son was the exact same, they immediately calm down after they get that first sip from their bottle. the crying stops and everything goes back to being calm and quiet. My wife is already on her way to work when I feed her, so she has been out of bed for awhile prior to the first feeding. This verse is very different from my everyday life, but I bet most stay at home parents deal with Lajoie's version much more so than my version. My kids are decent sleepers and my wife leaves before they wake up.

Then the second verse goes, " cook my wife breakfast while she's getting ready/ uh oh uh oh someone's diaper is smelly/ uh oh uh oh it leaked all over his belly/ uh oh uh oh it looks like mustard and jelly". So, all of this has, and will continue to happen to me, unitl my daughter is out of diapers. Also, my wife takes breakfast to work or makes her own breakfast. She is a much better cook than I will ever be. But, the smelly diaper, the leaky diaper, the mustard and jelly look of a leaky diaper, it's all true and it has all happened to me about a dozen times. My life very much mimics this verse, minus the cooking breakfast, to a T.

This verse is followed by, " kiss my wife good bye while I clean up his bum bum/ it's time for his bath/ this is going to be fun fun/ I try not to get soap in his eye/ he really doesn't like it, it makes him cry". Yes, a good bye kiss happens every morning, but not while I'm changing a diaper. But, after a leaky diaper, there is always a bath. My daughter loves baths. She soaks it all in. She doesn't even care about getting soap in her eye. We also buy the tear free shampoo too. So, this verse is different from my life. But, as I have said before, I'm in the minority. I'm sure a lot more parents deal with what Lajoie has to say, I just don't. I'm lucky I suppose.

The next part of the song goes, " but if he cries I've got a trick/ I make funny noises with my mouth like this/ goo goo ga ga ga/ then we play peekaboo/ it makes him laugh". When my daughter cries I do all the same stuff and more. I make funny noises. I make her laugh. We play peekaboo a ton. She loves it all and I do it all. Totally parallels my real life. Then we get the chorus. It's the same, with a few changes. He mentions he likes his job a lot. I do as well. He mentions that it's a full time job. It sure as hell is. He mentions having an afternoon snack and watching shows during afternoon naps. That's when I watch movies and my shows and when I eat lunch. So, spot on.

The final verse has the lyrics, " if I have to run errands I take the van/ strap him in his car seat/ and take the baby bag/ I always make sure his seat is well strapped in/ my baby's security is important/ groceries, pay some bills, visit grandma/ but I have to be back by 4 o' clock/ so I can prepare supper while I watch "Oprah"/ what sounds good tonight, maybe some pasta/ and a Caesar salad, my wife likes that/ 5 o' clock is the time she gets back/ she asks me how my day was I say not bad/ it's all in a days work as a stay at home dad". So, the errands. My life is running errands and I always take the SUV. I always make sure my daughter is comfortable and safe in her seat. I NEVER leave the house without my diaper bag. So far, 100 percent correct. We visit my kids grandparents all the time and we always make sure we make it home before my wife gets home so my kids can wind down. However, I do not prepare supper or watch "Oprah". I'm not a good cook, see above, and I don't care for afternoon talk shows. My wife gets home an hour earlier, but still pretty much the same. We always ask each other about our days and we always seem to say the same thing, it's a days work. This verse is pretty much one hundred percent straight on. It is a near perfect representation of my life.

The ending is the chorus as well, with some extra stuff added in. Lajoie mentions he gets high on baby hugs and watches movies and shows with the kids. I do both of these things, but my favorite Disney movie is the "Lion King", not the "Lion King 2". Then he finishes it off by repeating, "that's right I take care of my children" over and over again.

This song is almost the perfect representation of my daily life. I think about 75 to 80 percent of it is an exact parallel of my daily life. Lajoie is a genius comedian and song writer and "Stay At Home Dad" is his piece de resistance. It's an excellent, and very true, song.

Ty

Ty is the Pop Culture editor for SeedSing and the other host of the X Millennial Man Podcast. He does not need "Oprah" in his day, he already has Ina. Follow Ty on twitter @tykulik.

After a strong episode, Ty is optimistic about the end of "The League"

One more episode, then I can turn the TV off

Spoiler alert, in fact this whole blog will be a spoiler alert for the whole season, so watch the episode before reading this.

Last nights episode of "The League" on FXX, "The 13 Stages of Grief" has been, hands down, the best episode of this, their final season. 

We found out in the last episode, , Ruxin's(Nick Kroll) wife, Sofia(Nadine Velazquez) was killed during a plastic surgery blunder. They had a funeral and everything, but there is still some question as to whether she's really dead. I say this because last nights episode opened with all the actors hanging around at a lunch table and asking Ruxin if he's grieved enough so they can get back to keeping regular score in their fantasy football league. Ruxin still seems pretty shook up, but he relents and says it's okay for them to go back to keeping real score. Ruxin leaves the lunch and heads to his empty home. When he walks in the door, he sees two table setting with pasta and bread and some lit candles. He thinks it's Sofia, but when he turns around, Rafi(Jason Mantzoukas) is standing right behind him. Any episode that is Rafi heavy are my favorites. So, when I saw him, I was immediately into the episode. Rafi was Sofia's younger brother, so he tells Ruxin that he is there to help him grieve the loss of Sofia and that he was putting him through his 13 stages of grief.

For those of you that don't know about the show or Rafi, he's a disgusting, dirty and downright nasty person. He has a drinking and drug problem. He shoots pornography with his buddy Dirty Randy(Seth Rogen). His sex life doesn't just include people, he has relations with animals and food. He is a garbage person to a t. He's so gross.

Back to the episode.

While telling Ruxin that he's going to help him grieve, he says that he prepared the dinner in his "toilet-kitchen". This is so foul, especially to Ruxin, he's a HUGE germaphobe. In Kevin's(Steve Ranizzissi) house, the rest of the crew is talking fantasy football. Pete(Mark Duplass) walks in and starts to talk about his daily fantasy team. This is off limits to the rest of the crew. They say, and I agree, that daily fantasy football is a useless, non strategic form of fantasy football. They will not allow Pete to talk about it. Jenny(Katie Aselton) goes as far as calling it "cheating on your fantasy wife and bragging about it". They, and I, hate daily fantasy leagues.

Later on we see Andre(Paul Scheer) talking to Ruxin at Ruxin's house, asking how he's doing, how's he dealing with his loss. But, the main reason he's there is to see if Ruxin is still keeping his reservation at the Michelin star restaurant that the whole crew is going to the week before fantasy playoffs. After Ruxin kind of hints that he doesn't know if he still wants to go, Rafi shows up with a bloodied bag that we come to find that there's a dead raccoon in. Rafi says this is stage 3, the episode doesn't give us every stage, facing death. He wants Ruxin to look the dead raccoon in the face, Rafi is calling it Sofia now, and drink it's blood. He swears it will help him get over Sofia and that he's already drank some of the raccoon's blood. This is where Andre leaves. He cannot stand Rafi. The whole crew doesn't like Rafi in fact.

Later on, the whole crew is hanging out and all of the sudden their league is shut down due to graphic material on their fantasy message board. They have always had very cruel, hurtful and hateful speak on the boards, so they can't figure out why, now, they were being shut down. Rafi emerges and asks if they have seen the video he just posted on the board of him and Dirty Randy having relations with a chicken in Mexico. So, that's why they were shut down. They now have to do all their fantasy stuff offline, like the old days they say. This leaves Kevin, he's the commissioner, with a ton of work. He has to track add/drop players, scores, trades, pretty much anything that you can do with a click of a button now in fantasy sports, he has to do by hand. It's very hard to keep track of it all.

While Kevin is doing all this work, Andre goes to the restaurant to try and put the reservation under his name, but it doesn't work. At another point, Kevin goes to Ruxin's house to try and figure out all the players he wants to add and drop and we get an excellent scene between Ruxin and Rafi arguing while Kevin watches. Rafi shows up with a tank top and an apron, giving them chips and salsa and says that this is part of the grieving. Ruxin has always had someone around to feed him and his friends during games, so that's what Rafi is doing now. They fight and nag, much to the chagrin of Kevin. The fight ends when Rafi throws a pregnancy test at Ruxin and says, "by the way, I' pregnant. I shit on it this morning and it's positive". I was crying laughing. Ruxin even sniffs the test and is immediately repulsed exclaiming, "why would I sniff it!?". So funny.

Near the end of the episode, Rafi tells Ruxin that the last step in the grieving process is for the two of them to sleep together. Did I mention he was wearing Sofia's underwear? No, well he was. He tells Ruxin that he never got one last time to be intimate with his wife, so he would give him that since he and Sofia are blood related. Ruxin wants no part of this, so he lights a vanilla scented candle. The scent of vanilla makes Rafi gag and while he's getting sick, Ruxin actually says that he is through grieving. The process is over and it worked.

The rest of the crew is at the restaurant with Taco(Jon Lajoie) posing as Ruxin. Their plan isn't working, but Ruxin comes in and saves the table and the dinner. At said dinner, they all want to know who made the playoffs. Kevin presents them with scores, but the math is all wrong and nobody is pleased. They decide to let everyone on the playoffs and make it a one week, winner take all for the Shiva. High score wins, low score gets the Sacko, the last place trophy. They all go to the Shiva and give praise one last time and proceed to leave the restaurant. When leaving, Meegan(Leslie Bibb) is there. Meegan was married to Pete in season one, they got divorced and it was revealed this season that her and Andre were dating. They eventually broke up and this is the first they're seeing each other since ending it. Meegan takes off her coat to reveal that she's pregnant and the episode ends there.

I was so happy at how good this episode was. This season has been kind of so so, but "The 13 Stages of Grief" hearkened back to the best of "The League". They have one episode left and if it's half as good as this one, I will be very happy. This was a great first step towards ending the show and let's hope the series finale follows in the same foot steps. I'm more happy and prepared for the series finale today than I have been all season with "The League".

Now end it strong.

Ty

Ty is the Pop Culture editor for SeedSing and the other host of the X Millennial Man podcast. The daily fantasy he participates in is the one about all of his kids sleeping through the night. Follow Ty on twitter @tykulik.